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If buying lubrication, getting blood tests, and discussing your hormones with your doctor seem like an effort, check out the amazing benefits of sex:

• Sex burns about 200 calories during 30 minutes of active sex.
• Regular sex promotes circulation and lubrication!
• Having sex three times a week can make you look and feel ten years younger, thus boosting self esteem.
• Sex is the safest sport you’ll ever enjoy.
• Sex releases endorphins into the bloodstream producing a sense of euphoria, that can reduce depression.
• Sex is a stress reliever.  It is ten times more effective than Valium.
• Sex can relieve headaches by releasing the tension that restricts blood vessels in the brain.
• Sex is a natural antihistamine that can help with asthma and hay fever.
• Sex can lower your cholesterol by tipping the HDL/LSL (good kind/bad kind) cholesterol balance towards the HDL (good) side.
• Regular sex can boost estrogen levels.  Estrogen keeps your hair shinny, skin smooth; helps reduce the chances of getting dermatitis, and rashes. 
• The actual sex act triggers the release of oxytocin that promotes more good feelings.
• Sex can help you sleep better because the levels of oxytocin, a sleep-inducing hormone, can be 5 times higher than normal during love making.

Now, let’s chat about your “guilt”.  Women get joy out of pleasing the people we love, especially our wonderful husbands. This is a fact.  Of the two species, women are the “pleasers”. So when something changes and we can’t please everyone as we used to, it is common to feel guilty.   During perimenopause, menopause and post menopause our bodies are going through natural changes.  This is nothing to feel guilty about.  Just as our bodies go through a transition during puberty, our bodies also go through a transition as we end our childbearing years.  This is a time when we need to spoil ourselves.  We may have a little less time to give to others as we devote some time to ourselves during this menopausal transition.  This is a good time to find other friends going through the same thing, share information, lend support and compare experiences.  Talking about “it” can make you feel better.

And the fear of your hubby looking at other women; remember, you are a hottie (no pun intended if you are going through hot flashes).  You’ve had a happy sex life because you are happy enjoying sex.  It’s not only about pleasing your husband; your husband will be turned on to YOU when you take care of yourself.  You may wish to talk to your husband about how you are feeling physically and emotionally during your transition, so he knows it is not about him and he can offer you support.

So, buy some lubrication, drink plenty of water, see your doctor about a FSH blood test and discuss hormone options, take time for yourself and being sleepless should only happen because you are making love to your Prince Charming.

Signed,
Less Crabby and More Loving

PS.  A note to menopausal women who are in the dating world with more than one partner…. practice safe sex.  You may be able to get pregnant and you want to avoid getting a sexually transmitted disease or AIDS.

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